Saturday, February 13, 2010

Mourning the Loss of Avi Schaefer

Early Friday morning on a street in Providence, Rhode Island, the world lost Avi Schaefer. Hit and killed by a drunk driver Avi remains a treasured student, friend, brother, soldier and hero. A student at Brown University, Avi had just completed 3 voluntary years of army service in the IDF.

I first met Avi when he was a young 15 year-old student at the NFTY-EIE High School in Israel program during my first semester as a teacher. While his twin Yoav was in my class, Avi was a known presence, and often struck up conversations over lunch and on tiyulim. As he and Yoav made their way back to Israel after high school, whether for just a visit and finally as olim, I always enjoyed hearing them tell their tales of adventure and travel and struggles with the challenge of being Zionists and strong Jewish advocates amidst an adversarial Californian environment.

Upon induction to the IDF (a month after my own), Avi and Yoav took to combat units feeling a strong sense of national responsibility and שליחות. Whether it was appearances on Yair Lapid's show or Nefesh B'Nefesh, Avi (and Yoav) never shied away from the opportunity to share their beliefs and to explain why they believed what they were doing was right.

Every time I called their mobile phone, not knowing who would answer, Avi without fail, always first inquired about me and my well being. "How's your service going?" he would ask with genuine curiosity as to my well being. "It must be tough to be so much older than everyone else," he once inquired. When I told him that my cushy army desk job pailed in comparison to he and Yoav's months of guard duty in Hevron and the Lebanese border, he would reply with a smile and say "hey, everyone's got to do what they're good at," and remind me that I had inspired them to be where they are now.

While not all of his army service was easy the decision to leave Israel and study at Brown University was also quite difficult. It is clear to me that in his first semester at Brown, Avi felt a strong sense of shlichut and was determined to be an Israel advocate, and to show the world through his campus that Israeli soldiers are not monsters and can even be peace-loving, calm and articulate people.

I recomend reading Avi's opinion piece "To those interested in creating peace in the Middle East" published in the Brown Daily Herald to begin to get a sense of who Avi was.

In a split second a selfish and despicable human being made a decision and took the life of our student, friend, brother, soldier, hero and role model. In Avi's short life, he was able to impact so many. Our thoughts are with his parents and brothers.

יהי זכרו ברוך

2 comments:

Sarah C Weinberg said...

Josh -
We are so sorry for the loss of your good friend. It sounds like he was an amazaing guy and will be missed my many. I'm sorry we didn't get a chance to meet him. Thinking of you.
Sarah

Lauren said...

This is amazing... Avi was a good friend of mine, and this speaks to the true colors of Avi. Genuine interest in other people's lives and sincere intelligence. Z"l